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TEN COMMANDMENTS OF FINANCIAL FREEDOM

1. Thou shalt spend less than you earn
2. Thou shall comparison Shop
3. Thou shall tame your driving addiction
4. Thou shall buy used (including your vehicle)
5. Thou shall cut up your credit cards
6. Thou shall buy according to thy needs
7. Thou shall stop eating out
8. Thou shall regulate thy utility use
9. Thou shall invest in thy IRA
10. Thou shalt pay yourself first

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Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Live in "daytight compartments."

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We toss and we turn sensing danger around every curve in our life, yet the battles we've lost have yet to manifest. One technique that I use to guide me through my hectic day was revealed to me in the book aptly titled, "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living," by Dale Carnegie. Seems that not enough of us live in what Sir William Osler called, "daytight compartments."
A few months before he spoke at Yale, Sir William Osier had crossed the Atlantic on a great ocean liner where the captain standing on the bridge, could press a button and-presto!-there was a clanging of machinery and various parts of the ship were immediately shut off from one another-shut off into watertight compartments.

“Now each one of you,” Dr. Osier said to those Yale students, “is a much more marvelous organisation than the great liner, and bound on a longer voyage. What I urge is that you so learn to control the machinery as to live with ‘day-tight compartments’ as the most certain way to ensure safety on the voyage. Get on the bridge, and see that at least the great bulkheads are in working order. Touch a button and hear, at every level of your life, the iron doors shutting out the Past-the dead yesterdays. Touch another and shut off, with a metal curtain, the Future -the unborn tomorrows. Then you are safe-safe for today! …

Shut off the past! Let the dead past bury its dead. … Shut out the yesterdays which have lighted fools the way to dusty death. … The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried today, makes the strongest falter. Shut off the future as tightly as the past. … The future is today. … There is no tomorrow. The day of man’s salvation is now.
Waste of energy, mental distress, nervous worries dog the steps of a man who is anxious about the future. … Shut close, then the great fore and aft bulkheads, and prepare to cultivate the habit of life of ‘day-tight compartments’.”

Did Dr. Osier mean to say that we should not make any effort to prepare for tomorrow? No. Not at all. But he did go on in that address to say that the best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm,on doing today’s work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for the future.”

What about you, are you living in daytight compartments?




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Saturday, September 12, 2009

Ten easy ways to unstress your life

Ten easy ways to de-stress your life







1. Take a long walk under the full moon.
You would be surprised as to the calming effect the full moon has had on Earths denizens since the beginning of recorded history. A subject of much mystery and folklore, the moon is also known for having a tranquil effect on those that ponder under, and meditate on it. Sit outside on some calm summers night with the sound of crickets filling in the background just once and you'll be hooked. Walk under it after a hard days work and you'll come away feeling relaxed and refreshed.







2. Take a long drive out in the country or mountains.
Another great way to de stress and come up with new ideas for your life. Many answers that we seek to our daily confusion come to us when we least expect them to. Personally I have found that walking under the moonlight or driving the mountains and country roads where I live offers an insight into my life that may have taken months to come full circe.







3. Meditate.As little as 15 minutes a day has produced remarkable results in my life. Not only am I calmer but I can focus and learn much easier.

Sex




4. Sex. If I had to explain this then you wouldn't understand.



Jog

5. Jog. I rarely missed more than two days at a time since I began jogging in 1977. I am the same weight now as I was in 1988 6'00 @ 200 Lbs. All thanks to exercise. When I get off of work after a particularly stressful day and am exhausted, I always find that once I get on the treadmill the fatigue goes away. There is a difference between physical exhaustion and mental exhaustion.




6. Visit friends. Even monkeys, when isolated for long periods of time exhibit signs of mental retardation. Get off the kindle and get with your friends.



7. Call someone that you haven't spoken to in years. Nostalgia is food for the soul.
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8.Listen to classical music. I grew up on Mowtown, and the Rolling Stones but there comes a time when nothing even comes close to classical music for relaxation and stress reduction. I never listen to anything but classical before noon and after 8 pm.





9. Read a good book. Better yet join a book club. Whether reading with the family or alone it doesn't really matter. Nothing smacks of personal growth than reading and I read a new book every month. My favorite subjects are personal finance and self-help.
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10. Set 20 minutes aside a day and do absolutely nothing. This ties perfectly into the meditation period that I recommended earlier. The results are short of spectacular,
Thursday, September 10, 2009

Wireless electricity just around the corner?

Eric Giler wants to untangle our wired lives with cable-free electric power. Here, he covers what this sci-fi tech offers, and demos MIT's breakthrough version, WiTricity -- a near-to-market invention that may soon recharge your cell phone, car, pacemaker.



Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Consumerism vs. minimalism

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There is in most of us a fundamental desire to purchase cool stuff It stems from fears and insecurities, I think, but it is exploited by corporations and advertising. Advertising is designed to get us to desire more, to want to buy, and because it works so well, we end up buying way, way more than we need.


Minimalism is the exact counter to this phenomenon, and for some of us, it’s the answer.
Think of tribal societies, unexposed to consumerism or advertising. They don’t have urges to go out and buy cool new clothes or gadgets or cars or shoes. It’s not that they don’t have desires, but it’s not at the same scale as in our society.


Even in the days before advertising, these kinds of desires for more were not as prevalent. It is advertising and consumerism that have created the desires, or at least magnified them to a hugely exaggerated level. It is extremely effective.


Unfortunately, it means we are always wanting to buy more, and always spending more. Which means we must either get into debt, or work more to earn more. Or both. And today, families must have two wage earners — as opposed to only 50-60 years ago, when there was only one wage earner necessary — in part because we are trying to support a more expensive lifestyle (also because we’re being paid less in real dollars). We’re also more in debt than ever before.


We need to stop and ask ourselves — what is it all for? Why are we working so hard in order to buy so much, to have so much, to be burdened and cluttered by so much?
It’s just too much. Minimalists say, "I’m getting off this merry-go-round. I opt out."
The minimalist first looks at needs vs. wants — is this a real need, or is it just a desire created by advertising? And if it’s a want, a desire, she doesn’t buy it.
The minimalist slowly learns to let go of desires. It doesn’t happen overnight, but it can happen, gradually, with a conscious effort.


Here’s how I do it:
Learn to be more conscious of my impulses when I’m ready to buy something.
Learn to pause, and to breathe, to let the physical desire wane.
Force myself to wait, if the purchase isn’t an absolute necessity.
Let myself think about it, and analyze whether it’s something I really need to buy. Often the answer is no.
Slowly improve upon this, over time, as I always make mistakes.
The minimalist lets go of desires, slowly, so that she buys less and spends less, gets into less debt (or none at all), and as a result, needs to earn less and work less.




This is a guest post from Leo Babuta of Zen Habits. Leo is also author of "The power of less," a book focused on reducing living expenses while still maintaining a comfortable lifestyle.


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Thursday, September 3, 2009

Boost your self-esteem

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Human life is an ongoing process that involves a constantly changing physical body as well as an enormous number of rapidly changing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.Your life therefore is an evolving experience, a continual flow - You are not a thing; that's why any label is constricting, highly inaccurate, and global. Abstract labels such as "worthless" or "inferior" communicate nothing and mean nothing.But you may still be convinced you are second-rate. What is your evidence? You may reason, "I feel inadequate.Therefore, I must be inadequate.
Otherwise, why would I be filled with such unbearable emotions?" Your error is in emotional reasoning.


Your feelings do not determine your worth, simply your relative state of comfort or discomfort.Rotten, miserable internal states do not prove that you area rotten, worthless person, merely that you think you are; because you are in a temporarily depressed mood, you are thinking illogically and unreasonably about yourself.Would you say that states of mood elevation and happiness prove you are great or especially worthy? Or do they simply mean that you are feeling good? Just as your feelings do not determine your worth, neither do your thoughts or behaviors. Some may be positive, creative,and enhancing; the great majority are neutral. Others may be irrational, self-defeating, and maladaptive. These can be modified if you are willing to exert the effort, but they certainly do not and cannot mean that you are no good.There is no such thing in this universe as a worthless human being.


"Then how can I develop a sense of self-esteem?" you may ask. The answer is-you don't have to! You don't have to do anything especially worthy to create or deserve self esteem;all you have to do is turn off that critical, haranguing,inner voice. Why? Because that critical inner voice is wrong! Your internal self-abuse springs from illogical, distorted thinking. Your sense of worthlessness is not based on truth, it is just the abscess which lies at the core of depressive illness.So remember three crucial steps when you are upset:


I . Zero in on those automatic negative thoughts and write them down. Don't let them buzz around in your head;snare them on paper!


2. Read over the list of ten cognitive distortions. Learn precisely how you are twisting things and blowing them out of proportion.


3. Substitute a more objective thought that puts the lie to the one which made you look down on yourself.As you do this, you'll begin to feel better. You'll be boosting your self-esteem, and your sense of worthlessness(and, of course, your depression) will disappear.

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Saturday, August 29, 2009

Rx for saving: A second opinion on medical bills

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Scott Fedyshyn and his wife recently brought home a bouncing baby boy -- and an unexpected $600 medical bill. But Fedyshyn, a trained billing consultant, fought back. He demanded itemized bills from his doctor explaining each charge, and why his health insurance wouldn't cover some items. Soon, he got another statement from the doctor's office – but this one came with a $200 refund check.

Billing errors are common, experts say. Double-billing, typos, upselling, and outright fraud add up to big unexpected medical bills for consumers -- even those who think they are fully covered by insurance. A complex web of bills, forms, and other paperwork mean a lot of Red Tape for health care, and often leads to overpayment by consumers.
Fedyshyn's tale is typical, and simple. A few weeks after the birth of his son, now 10 weeks old, he received the bill. "It said, 'Amount due: $600.’ And there was no real explanation for it," the 29-year-old from Virginia said. "I said I wanted a line-by-line breakdown of what was not covered and why." When he received the breakdown, the reason for the discrepancy was obvious: an ultrasound image of the baby that insurance refused to pay for. The physician's billing department had coded the procedure as if the Fedyshyn family had requested an extra – and unnecessary -- baby image during their initial visit. But in fact the doctor had ordered it because their child was facing the wrong direction when the first "picture" was taken, and the doctor wanted a second look. "So it should have been covered," Fedyshyn said. "After going back and forth a bit, it was changed."

These kinds of small errors in billing and coding can lead to big bills for patients, said Candy Butcher, CEO of the Medical Billing Advocates of America. Her firm trains advisors who sell medical billing audit services to consumers. Most work on contingency basis, taking 20 to 40 percent of the refunds they earn for clients.
"Eight out of 10 bills we see have some error," she said.

Harvard Professor Malcolm Sparrow, author of “License to Steal: How Fraud Bleeds America’s Health Care System,” said many medical bills seem arbitrary.
“Insurance companies and medical provider billings seem to bill on the basis of ‘let's just see what we can get away with,’ knowing that many consumers are too timid to question them,” he said. Recently, when he questioned a bill, he was immediately offered a $200 discount as a “professional courtesy.” “I took it as sure evidence that (the provider) knew the original bill was unjustifiable,” he said. “A sign of how aggressive the billings are would be the apparent ease with which they back off and adjust their demands when called to justify them.”

Errors can occur in many ways. In Fedyshyn’s case, the doctor’s office had incorrectly described its treatment to the insurance company when it “coded” the procedure. Each separate medical procedure, treatment, or drug given to a patient is recorded by the doctor or hospital in software, boiled down into a short numeric code. When providers miscode, insurance companies often reject the bill, and the patient can end up paying the difference. It can be easier for doctors to send patients a bill than to resubmit insurance claims.
Robert Tennant, senior policy adviser for the Medical Group Management Association – a trade group that represents physicians – said it’s hardly fair to lay the blame for overbilling on doctors. The complexity of billing procedures is a breeding ground for mistakes, he said.“With the thousands of health plans, complications galore, the lack of standardization, it’s inevitable that this is going o be the outcome,” he said.

Here’s one glimpse of the tortured billing process doctors face. After a visit, doctors code a patient’s ailment using a standard called ICD-9 (International Classification of Diseases). Currently, doctors must choose from about 17,000 possible codes. There are nearly 10 codes just to signify an ankle sprain, for example. But such coding can still be inexact, and many ailments must be squeezed into one designation or another. It’s obvious how errors might occur. In an effort to improve the precision of the codes, the Department of Health and Human Services (which manages the coding standards with Medicare) has added a host of new designations – there will be 155,000 possible code diagnoses soon. The new system will allow for recording of far more granular details: for example, whether a laceration to the head was caused by an ice hockey stick or a field hockey stick. Doctors must implement the system by 2013. An average small doctor’s office will have to pay $84,000 just to upgrade their systems to handle the new coding scheme, Tennant said. “It’s a very complicated process,” Tennant said. “And it’s going to get even more complex.” Blue Cross and Blue Shield, for example, expect coding errors to increase 10 to 25 percent in the first year of the new system.

The penalty to physicians for incorrect coding is severe: Generally, insurance companies will deny all claims with coding mistakes. And that’s just one of the roadblocks to payment that can spring up along the way. Others abound. There are, for example, about 1,200 potential claim forms used by health insurance companies. So while doctors must wait until long after they have provided care to receive payment – try that with your auto mechanic – consumers end up utterly confused when they look at their bills, and often don’t even know how to begin questioning costs. “What we’re getting at is the question of transparency,” he said. “As a patient, you might ask, ‘Why can’t I just see how much it costs for a medical procedure?’ Well, because it’s very obscure even for the provider … and the reality is because it's so complicated errors do occur.”

RED TAPE WRESTLING: Four steps to fair billing
Fedyshyn, who managed to get a refund from his physicians, knew the right questions to ask because he’s a consultant who challenges balance sheets for a living. But many consumers just pay their bills, happy to be healthy and feeling they don't have the expertise to challenge complex hospital stay bills, Butcher said. Many consumers could do just as well as Fedyshyn, however, if they took a few simple steps during and after their medical treatments, she said. Her tips:
1. Always request a "detailed itemized statement" from a hospital or doctor. Most will provide only a summary statement unless asked. The detailed statement is the foundation for any bill challenges.
2. Nothing is routine. On that detailed statement, many consumers find unfair or excessive charges for routine items like gowns, toothbrushes, gauze, and so on, Butcher said. Many times, those items are supposed to be included as part of room and board or operating room charges.
3. Kits for procedures are often a source for overcharging, she said. For example, she's seen separate bills for scalpels when patients are also being billed for operating kits that include the scalpel.
4. Clerical errors. Sometimes patients are billed for medications for days after the doctor stops administering them, for example. Or four X-ray charges end up on a bill when only two are taken.
Naturally, many consumers are in no position to track all these things during their health care stay. But the original doctor's orders for all procedures should be available to a patient through a request for medical records. Many times, patients should request those records after they receive their initial Explanation of Benefits (EOB) form from their insurance company, which show what costs are covered by insurance and what kind of bill to expect from the doctor or hospital.
Once a discrepancy is suspected or found, Butcher recommends patients go directly to the supervisor of the billing department at a hospital. She suggests patients send a certified letter with evidence of the error, and state clearly a desire that the item be placed "in dispute" and a request for a “30-day hold” on the payment process. That should stall any potential collections activity while the dispute is worked out.

Don’t be afraid:
Challenging a doctor's bill is easier said than done, however. Many consumers feel reluctant to challenge their physician's authority, particularly if they have an ongoing relationship with him or her. Even Fedyshyn said he'd gulped hard after raising an issue with a different pediatrician over tests that had been ordered which weren’t covered by insurance.
But Butcher said that shouldn't be a concern. Virtually all doctors she's worked with have been helpful when errors are brought to their attention.
"Physicians most of the time have no idea what goes on with the billing process. ...This has nothing to do with the care that is provided," she said. "It has to do with people hired to work in the billing department and the coding of items. When we bring things to the attention of physicians, they have been more than willing to adjust it off the bill or give some kind of credit. So people should not be afraid to bring it up to their physician."Naturally, most consumers don't pay a lot of attention to hospital bills unless their explanation of benefits statement indicates they will face a big out-of-pocket expense. But Butcher said patients should scan their bills carefully even if they are fully covered. It pays to watch out for overpayments by the insurance company, she said. Why?
Consumers can run into annual caps and find themselves forced to pay at the end of the year -- or worse.
"Most policies have a lifetime cap, and if you have a terminal illness, it's very easy to meet that lifetime maximum," she said. "Even though it may not benefit you financially now, you should still look over those bills. If the insurance company pays something they should not have, in the long run, that could hurt you, too."
Source: Red Tape Chronicles


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How to spot a market bottom

I have uploaded this article from money magazine because it proves timeless in its simplicity. Use it today or on the next market recession and capitalize on itss informaion. Market recovery is possible to spot with the right tools. Information is power.

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Thursday, August 27, 2009

Tired of all of those websites that ask you to sign up just to get some information?

Tired of all of those websites that ask you to sign up just to get some information? I was surprised at the amount of data contained here. What isn't listed can be added. Now get a generic login to any website without the hassle of a sign-up. Bugmenot.com is just what the Doctor ordered.

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Thursday, August 20, 2009

How to fight Internet abuse

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When Vanderbilt University freshman Chelsea Gorman was raped near campus in the spring of 2007, her life was shattered. She told only her close friends about the ordeal and left school for the rest of the semester after she began suffering panic attacks, but by last March she was back in Nashville and putting her life together. Then she got a phone call from a friend. The story of her rape had been posted on the Internet.

"Chelsea Gorman Deserved It" was the title of a message posted on juicycampus.com, a popular website dedicated to anonymous gossip about college students. "Everyone thinks she's so sweet, but she got what she deserved," wrote the unnamed author of the post, who went on to express envy for her rapist. Suddenly the whole campus knew about the devastating attack, and Gorman's fellow students talked about it in front of her.
"That was probably the hardest part," she told ABC News earlier this year. "That something like this is considered gossip is disgusting."

Even more disgusting is how common stories like this have become. Cyberbullying of younger children, usually by other kids, is a familiar story; less so is the online harassment of college students and adults. The cowards who cloak themselves in digital anonymity to smear others are not only hurting their victims but also damaging the sense of trust important to us all, online and off. The effects can range from mere embarrassment to lost jobs to emotional trauma. Meanwhile, the creeps sitting at their keyboards are rarely held to account.
Online harassment is as old as the Web itself. But now it's being actively encouraged by websites that profit from sourceless vitriol.


Perhaps the main offender is JuicyCampus, whose home page promises that "posts are totally, 100 percent anonymous." The website has become a clearinghouse for abuse, ranging from cruel insults and vicious rumors to the outing of gay and lesbian students and the harassment of racial and ethnic groups. How would you like to be the UCLA student who was recently branded "a stinky, ugly Jew … the most hated slut on campus"? JuicyCampus's frequently-asked-questions page—in addition to directing users to "IP cloaking" software to further mask their digital footprint—responds to "I'm offended!" with a flip "Sorry. Also, that's not a question." The website covers 500 colleges and universities, and already there are a slew of trashy imitators, many targeting older adults. Among them is the site gossipreport.com, where "you can anonymously talk about anyone you want. Instead of creating a profile about yourself, you can create a profile about someone else." One post features the photo of an Ohio man along with the message "Watch out, ladies." The post accuses the man of spreading STDs and says he's "a manho who can't be faithful to no one."

At rottenneighbor.com, users can trash the folks next door. Is a house in Boca Raton, Florida, really occupied by "the most obnoxious family alive"? Yes, according to one post, which claims that the girls who live there are sexually promiscuous, not to mention reckless behind the wheel. A street address and a Google Maps image of the house accompany the post. Creepy, huh?

"The business model of these sites is hate," says Parry Aftab, a lawyer who specializes in Internet privacy and security issues. "They're promoting it. They're encouraging you to say outrageous things." Smear someone in a traditional media outlet, like a newspaper or a talk show, and you can end up in court. But the law that Congress passed in 1996 establishing basic Internet regulations prevents website hosts from being held responsible for what outsiders post on their sites. In other words, the law says that the kind of defamation that would get the New York Times sued is fair game on JuicyCampus.

Sure, gossip is an ugly fact of life. But the Internet has changed its impact. Gossip that used to be contained within a relatively narrow social world is now broadcast to a wider audience less able to assess its credibility, says Daniel Solove, a professor of law at George Washington University and the author of The Future of Reputation: Gossip, Rumor, and Privacy on the Internet. And even a completely false allegation can last forever online. "Now we have a kind of permanent digital scarlet letter," says Solove.

We prize our right to free speech, but, experts like Solove say, we need to do more to protect another right: privacy. Meanwhile, some people are fighting back. Take the case of two young women victimized by several anonymous online thugs who posted threatening messages about them on autoadmit.com (which bills itself as "the most prestigious college discussion board in the world"). The unnamed attackers posted the women's photos, claimed that one of them had herpes, and wrote that both "should be raped."

In June 2007, the women filed a federal defamation lawsuit against the dozens of anonymous AutoAdmit users who made the comments (one of whom may have also used tricks to make the slurs appear as top results when the victims' names were Googled). By subpoenaing Internet service providers, the women have acquired some of the users' names; last August they named one publicly and are threatening to out more.
Maybe more cases like this one will make cowardly creeps attacking people from behind their keyboards think twice, lest they see their own reputations ruined in the end.
Do More
Create a
Google Alert for your name. You will receive an e-mail anytime you are mentioned somewhere online. Notify the hosts of the website where a smear about you has been posted; they will often take it down. The faster you respond, the less time a lie has to spread.
Companies like Reputation Defender (
reputationdefender.com) can help you wipe away lies that continue to appear in the records of Google and other search engines.
Wiredsafety.org provides advice for victims of online harassment.
Daniel Solove's book The Future of Reputation can be downloaded for free at
futureofreputation.com.

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13 things a mechanic won't tell you

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There are 13 importatnt things that a mechanic may or may not tell you. 13 things which can save you money. Don't depend on anyone for these basic items.
1. "Watch out for scare tactics. Admonitions like 'I wouldn't drive this another mile' should be viewed with suspicion."

2. "Check for ASE [National Institute for Automotive Service Excellence] or AAA [American Automobile Association] certification, as well as a state license. Reputable shops are proud to display them."

3. "Ask, ask, ask. For recommendations, years in business, warranties offered, licenses, and the type of equipment used. Look for a clean garage. A floor cluttered with empty oil cans, worn tires, and dirty rags is a red flag."

4. "Never sign a blank authorization form. Always get a signed work order with a specific estimate for each job and warranties that apply."

5. "It's nuts to take a car with engine problems to a shop without a good engine analyzer and scan tool. Any mechanic who says 'I don't need fancy equipment' should be avoided."

6. "Synthetic motor oils may cost more, but you'll get a lot more miles between changes."
7. "When you go for a second opinion, don't tell the mechanic what the first diagnosis and price were."

8. "Coolant flushes and power steering flushes are very common gimmicks at quick lubes. Check your owner's manual; many cars have fluid that is designed to go 100,000 miles. And cleaning fuel injectors is a waste of time and money. There are additives on the market that do a great job."

9. "Always ask for OE [original equipment] brake pads or at least equivalent material. A $49.95 brake job will usually get you the worst friction material you can buy-it's the difference between stopping short and causing a pileup on the way to work."

10. "Ask about your new tire's 'build date.' If you're getting an unusually good deal, you might be receiving three-year-old treads, especially risky for snow tires."

11. "Lifetime mufflers? What would ever make you think a muffler will last a lifetime? Yes, they'll give you free replacements, but they'll hit you over the head for expensive pipe repairs."

12. "Consult your dealer before you have work done on a catalytic converter or emissions parts. Some of these items carry a very long warranty, and free replacement is often required by law."

13. "It's not okay for your 'check engine' light to stay on all the time. It's probably not 'a loose gas cap.'"
Source: Reader's Digest
Tuesday, August 18, 2009

All stressed out and no place to go - Dealing with difficult people at work

We’ve all been victimized by them at some time or another. The backstabber, the complainer, the perfectionist, and the worst of all the defensive person. Moving from chaos to calm is fairly easy with a little practice.
This is a great self-Help video that you should bookmark when you need coaching.

Major points:
1. Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
2. Have someone make a tight fist and try to open it, about 10% are successful. The harder you try the tighter the fist.
3. The bribe technique does not work.
4. If you try to force someone to change they will either resist or resent us, or both. As a result they become more motivated to defend their position.
5. Raise your awareness level as to what is really going on.
6. Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness at which they were created.
7. Beliefs create interpretations which are congruent to our beliefs.
8. Beliefs create expectations which in turn create our emotions.
9. Our emotions create our behaviors.
10. Chronically difficult people believe that the world is an unsafe place and that the world is out to get them.
11. They suffer from low self esteem.







Another great Self-Help Video worth watching

Monday, August 17, 2009

How to spot a fake Craigslist ad

Fake Craigslist ads are everywhere to be found on the Craigslist website. Wih just a bit of due diligence spotting a fake ad is not very hard at all.

1.If it looks to good to be true then it is probably fake. Only deal with local people. Only accept cash for what you are selling or buying. Make a bill of sale for more expensive items.

Step 2
Use a secondary email (free
email account that you do not care about) when replying to an ad. Ads that are used by spammers to collect emails will only see your secondary email.

Step 3
Use two different ( free
email accounts that you do not care about ) emails and reply to the same ad. If you get the same respone back really fast to both of your emails then it is driven by bots and the ad it fake. The fake response usually have different email address but the same content.

Step 4
If you see the same ad show up in other cities then the ad is probably fake. Spammers and scammers constantly post in different cities and countries to be a step ahead.

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Search Craigslist based on multiple locations and categories

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CraigsList Reader is a tool to search Craigslist based on multiple locations and categories. Enter your search term and choose your options to narrow down your search result. Set notifications to alert you, or send you an e-mail when new posts meeting your criteria appear on Craigslist. Set it up so that you can find jobs in NY, apartments in Chicago, and cars in LA. Search thru entire world, or just some country or state or city. Select multiple locations. Search thru all the categories/sub-categories. Select multiple categories/sub-categories. Add favorites, sort items by date, location, category, title, or price. Save and load search results to analyze or store.
Download: Craigslist Reader

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Sunday, August 16, 2009

Into the unknown

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Everyday technology becomes more sophisticated and people increasingly spend more and more time swallowing up themselves in it. What ever happened to the days when the masses would spend a nice day out of doors savoring the world? Nowadays people will remain inside and blog about how fine the weather is outside today. How frequently do the masses actually press the off button on their computers and do something else for fun? In today's world not that frequently any longer. People would prefer surfing the web than taking their pet for a walk. This has to be contributing to the ever flourishing obesity rate. Treasure the world while you are still here. That computer is not going to do you any good in the grave. Get out and enjoy what is left of your life. Take a walk in the moonlight. Walk through a garden at sunset and feel the warmth and peacefulness inside of yourself. Turn off the television and ban the spin doctors from entering your mind. All they are out to do is sell you their product any way that they can and that includes scaring you to death when warranted. When people are afraid they spend more money to forget about their fears and problems. The media knows this all-too-well and use it to their advantage 24 hours per day.

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How to Become a Better Listener

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Listening to people is a fine art that needs to practiced. If you are like most people, then chances are you often interrupt others while they are still talking. In your defense, you could say that a long-winded, one-sided conversation is the quickest turn off ever, and while this might be true, it just shows basic respect for the other person when we are prepared to listen to them without consistently interrupting their speech.

Written on 8/15/2009 by
Monika Mundell. Monika Mundell is a passionate freelance writer and pro-blogger. Her blog Freelance Writing helps new freelance writers to get started in this exciting industry. If you like to work with Monika, feel free to visit her Portfolio site.
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Saturday, August 15, 2009

How to make a homeade scanner from cardboard and a coathanger

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In the modern world, purchasing a scanner-copier-fax for personal scanning intentions is actually rake. A inexpensive solution is getting your digital / mobile camera to function as an image scanner, but that can require a lot of expertise on your part to hold the camera motionless and acquire non-blurry picture. Here is a Do-it-ypurself project that will save you both time and money, and wven without requiring any complex circuitry or over-the-top electronic hugger-mugger, will eradicate the need for an image scanner. Conceptualized by Matt Embrey, the sole requirements for this project are a camera, tough cardboard or 2 coat-hangers and an elastic rubber band. For the cardboard base, survey the plan and trim the cardboard to construct the unit. The coat-hanger base is even easier to construct, barely some muscle-power and a bit of bending. But remember one thing: adapt the height of the bases such that your photographic camera can fit the entire image to be scanned. Pictures speak 1000 words, so go run down the entire procedure in images after the break.

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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

How a haircut led to a handy Acronym

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This is a guest post from Lynn, a long-time reader of personal-finance blogs. Lynn is a potential Staff Writer for Get Rich Slowly. In her first post, she explained where to find free activities and events in your area. Lynn is the CFO (Chief Financial Officer) of her family, and is working hard to increase her financial health after years of many poor financial choices.

From my toddler years on, I’ve had long hair. There were a few years when I would get it cut shoulder length, but I never ventured into short hair territory. That is, until about a month ago. I found a cute hairstyle from the virtual salon at MarieClaire.com (you can upload your picture and try on different styles — it’s free!). I printed my new style and ventured out to the hair salon. I showed the hairdresser the picture and sat in the chair. I got an uneasy feeling in my stomach as the cape was placed around my neck.
I should have listened to my gut — it was trying to tell me something. Before I knew it I heard the scissors and she held up a long clump of my hair: “There’s no going back now.” I managed a nervous smile. No…there wasn’t.
The hairdresser was great. It took about 20 minutes for the cut and then the fancy hair product came out. She explained everything she was using so I could learn what I needed to do. First up was the root boost to give my hair some volume. Then my hair had to be dried with a hair dryer in a specific way to make the ends flip out. To give the style even more “sassiness” as the hairdresser put it, she used a curling iron to curl the ends up. Sculpting wax and hairspray locked the style in.
What did I get myself into? For the past ten years all I had to do was wash, brush and let my hair air dry. It was perfect for my busy schedule. I feel a bit embarrassed about the whole situation because I didn’t do one thing… I didn’t really think through my purchase before I made it. One of the best tips I have picked up from reading personal finance blogs is that I should ask myself whether something I want to purchase is a want or need. That single question has saved me from many frivolous purchases. The decision to get my hair cut passed the want or need test through some creative justification on my part (more about that in a bit). With my haircut experience as my guide, I came up with a set of questions that I felt would help me really think through purchases - beyond the want or need aspect. My memory can be rusty at times so I needed something to help me remember them. It took a while to situate the questions and the wording, but finally I came up with an easy to remember acronym…WEALTH.

Here’s how it breaks down:
Want or need? Even though I was looking for more questions to ask myself, this question is still important and at the top of my list. My haircut was a want, yet I ended up justifying the purchase. I convinced myself that I needed a change since I’ve had the same hairstyle for over a decade. My mind has a sneaky way of justifying things sometimes.

Ego? Was I getting a haircut to boost my ego or keep up with the Joneses? I became fixated on the picture I printed. I thought I would look more attractive with the shorter cut. In hindsight, I didn’t appreciate what I did have with my long hair.

Add-ons? The haircut itself was one expense, but I didn’t take into account the added cost of hair product. The product ended up costing as much as the cut - doubling the amount I originally planned to spend.

Lifestyle? I thought short hair would be easier to handle than long hair. Oops! I should have done more research and asked the hairdresser what was needed to maintain my style even before I sat in the chair. I’m a wash-n-go type of gal, and my new haircut is far from that.

Time? Is the purchase a one time thing or will there be multiple purchases in the future for upkeep? To maintain my haircut, the hairdresser recommended coming back to the salon every six weeks. A $25 haircut was going to be over a $200/year expense (my previous expense was once every few years since I trimmed my own hair). That’s not even counting the cost of replenishing hair product after it runs out.

Happiness? My haircut is cute, but the happiness started to fade the first time I tried to recreate the style on my own. My little pic used for the audition here at Get Rich Slowly was taken right after I got home from the salon - my hair never looked the same again. It didn’t take long for frustration to set in and I found myself spending way too much time getting ready in the mornings. I would rather do other things during that time.

The WEALTH acronym has already come in handy. A relative was selling a canoe in excellent condition that would fit our entire family. It has been a want of ours for some time, but the price was such a great deal ($150) that the want versus need question was teetering. After going through the other questions, there were add-ons to consider (canoe carrier for our vehicle, extra oars, etc.) and I wondered how much a canoe would affect our happiness. After all, we had a problem spending money in the past on things we thought we would use for family fun but rarely did.
In the end, we didn’t make the purchase and the WEALTH acronym had its first success story. Hopefully there will be many more to come - including when it is applied to my next hairstyle — I’m letting this one grow out
Source: getrichslowly.org

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Determine the true cost of health care procedures in your area

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The Healthcare Blue Book is a free consumer guide to help you determine fair prices in your area for healthcare services. If you pay for your own healthcare, have a high deductible or need a service your insurance does not fully cover, they can help. The Blue Book will help you find fair prices for surgery, hospital stays, doctor visits, medical tests and much more. Where I can see this site as being useful is in weeding out the price gougers in the medical field or helping someone in determining whether they can afford an elective procedure. Print out the report and use it as a bargaining tool on your next procedure. But caveat Emptor, do not choose a doctor soley on cost or you could be sorry. Healthcare is complicated and there are differences between methodology and procedure, what's needed and what's not.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Getting Thing Done the David Allen way




If you are into being perfect on your productivity or near so, then you definitively have to discover David Allen's "Getting Things Done" productivity system. Let's take a closer glance on how to implement GTD in your life.
Getting things done is a "template for organizing your life and projects, unequaled by any other time management opus in the world. If you are a student or simply a CEO ,this is the way to completely organize and execute everything that life can possibly throw your way.


The basic components of this system are:
Inbox \ Action \ Defer \ Delegate \ Waiting For \ Tickler \ File Reference

The Inbox
Everything begins with the inbox. It's in all likelihood the most crucial part of GTD — seizing all of your most pressing projects. Way too many people think of an agenda or a day planner as being synonymous with a to-do list.

Action
The very next thing to be done regardless of time available. This is a must if this system is to benefit you. Actions are the very next thing you do on a task and belong nowhere else in your list.

Defer
Defer a task if you cannot accomplish it until another time.

Delegate
Delegate when you need another hand in helping you in the completion of a task.

Tickler
This is your "someday/maybe" file. Things that you'd like to accomplish.


Reference---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Anything that you use on a regular basis and need fast access to such as passwords etc.

Waiting For
If you cannot accomplish the action without the help of someone else i.e. waiting for your Doctor to call back with an appointment slot.





I have implemented GTD into my Gmail inbox (click on Thumbnail) I refer to this every morning and update as needed. Simply add Gmails free "To Do" list and rename the labels accordingly. My productivity has increased exponentially on the fly by using a web based system.

Here is an excellent video by the creator of the GTD system David Allen. Mastering this system will change your life forever. I know it has mine.







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