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1. Thou shalt spend less than you earn
2. Thou shall comparison Shop
3. Thou shall tame your driving addiction
4. Thou shall buy used (including your vehicle)
5. Thou shall cut up your credit cards
6. Thou shall buy according to thy needs
7. Thou shall stop eating out
8. Thou shall regulate thy utility use
9. Thou shall invest in thy IRA
10. Thou shalt pay yourself first

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Tuesday, July 27, 2010

How to Rebuild Your Attention Span and Focus

How to Rebuild Your Attention Span and Focus



How to Rebuild Your Attention Span and Focus
Most people who click on this article won't finish reading it. So says Nick Carr. The New York Times will remind you that you'll probably forget it in a few minutes. This idea's so prevalent, even the Onion has started taking jabs.
There's some truth to it. Posts like this and search trends point to what we're after. Many people want the ability to focus more and feel like they're losing the ability to focus on a particular task for long periods of time. We feel like we're losing that ability. Getting Things Done and all the other books out there tend to give you some rituals to cope with the problem — but only if you could stick to them. Most of us, just a few weeks after reading that book, sit next to filing cabinets (virtual or otherwise) and go about our merry way.
That's because we're focused on the wrong thing. To get a longer attention span — even a span long enough to read this article — don't worry about managing the information. Worry about managing your attention. Paying attention, for long periods of time, is a form of endurance athleticism. Like running a marathon, it requires practice and training to get the most out of it. It is as much Twitter's fault that you have a short attention span as it is your closet's fault it doesn't have any running shoes in it. If you want the ability to focus on things for a long period of time, you need attention fitness.
Neuroplasticity is how your brain changes its organization over time to deal with new experiences. It involves physical changes inside of the brain based on the particular tasks the brain is asked to complete. It's why the hippocampus of a seasoned taxi driver in London is larger than average, and how a meditating monk grows grey matter. Your brain isn't a mythological deity but a physical part of your body that needs to be taken care of just like the rest of your body. And your body responds to two things really well — diet and exercise. Let's presume your brain, being a part of the body, also does.
Things like Inbox Zero or cutting down on meetings may be handy tricks, but they don't take neuroplasticity into account. The bet there is that you have a finite amount of attention to spend, and that attention range isn't changeable. That stuff is handy for making the best use of your limited attention span, but it's not going to improve your attention span. It's not going to stop your brain from being easily distracted or unfocused if you've already trained it to be that way.
So how do you train to focus? I've been using interval training with great success. Modeled after how I trained to run my first marathon using Jeff Galloway's technique, I practice attention interval training. I got this timer installed on my computer. It's an excellent interval timer based on a technique called the Pomodoro technique — but I'm primarily using it based on its ability to make sound, set good intervals, and support logging. I started small: 10 minutes of work with two minute breaks. My strategy has been to keep it so when the timer goes off that tells me it's time to take a break, I feel like I can keep going. I'm up to 35 minutes now with 2 minute breaks. Interestingly enough — this is about as far as I'll get probably while still being able to keep Instant Messaging on. I've found that about 35 minutes is the max response time for IM to be useful.
The timer isn't the key part though, that's just a component of a system like a good watch is a part of running a marathon. Here's how I set that up:

Ditched the Second Monitor

I've been using a second monitor for nearly ten years, thinking that vast amounts of space were key to productivity. The second monitor myth has been around for quite some time. Yet the only actual scientific study I could find linking multiple monitors to productivity was done in 2003 by a monitor manufacturer, a video card manufacturer, and the University of Utah. It's actually kind of a marketing document, not a study. I've opted for one, large monitor. Two monitors just allows me to put distractions on one monitor, and actual work on another.

Set up Spaces in OS X

Spaces is virtual desktop software on OS X. I never thought it was useful before ditching the second monitor, but now — instead of having always-on distraction in one monitor on my desk, I can put my email, twitter, and surfing browser in one "Space" on OS X and keep it there. When I start my pomodoro timer, I hop into a "space" that looks more like this — only the tools I need to do whatever task I am up for on the screen. In this case, I need limited web browsing and a text editor to write this blog post. Note the addition of "about:blank" in my bookmark bar at the top of the browser. While I'm writing and don't need to use the browser, I tend to blank the screen out so I don't get too distracted by the browser.
My third space simply has Remember the Milk running in full screen.
Ed. note: If you're not running OS X, take a look at these popular virtual desktops for alternatives to Spaces.

Turned the mouse off during work-time

During the time that I'm working (unless I'm editing) — my 35 minute work intervals — I turn my mouse off. I've found that I can focus much more on the task at hand if I don't touch or use that mouse. For me, my mouse is a gateway towards passive browsing and web surfing. If I don't have access to it, I can't begin the chain reaction of getting sucked into the web. For me, it'd be like running a marathon on a road with 26.2 miles of chicken-wing stores. I might make it a few miles, sure, but around mile 20, I'm going to succumb to temptation. I've found that Divvy helps me manage windows without the mouse, and that Vimium helps me use the web for research without the mouse.

Created a proactive routine

Part of my 2 minute break-time is used to set-up whatever tools I need to accomplish my next task. I use that time to figure out exactly what I need for my next task, close-down all the things I don't need for that task, and set windows up appropriately. There's rarely a time when I need more than two windows open. My workspace, whether it be writing code or writing blog posts, more often than not, looks like this. The set-up generally involves closing all tabs in the browser, and starting the browser fresh with an about:blank page. The key here is, I don't just hop into doing work. I spend a minute or two setting up an ideal environment for me to be able to complete whatever my next task is. When I leave my computer for the day, there are no windows open. I start with a blank slate to come back to. No need getting bogged down in yesterday's set-up.

About those tabs

None of my web browsers — surfing or otherwise, are allowed to have more than 5 tabs per browser window at any time. I do this via the No More Tabs Chrome extension. This extension is pretty brutal: if you create a new tab and you're over your tab limit (defaults to 5) it'll close your oldest one. I've been running this extension for over a month, and not once have I had a serious problem. It's forced me to pay attention to a particular web page and finish working with it if I'm going to move on to something else.

The Environment Around Me

While I work primarily from home, I'm still prone to distractions from my environment. To conquer that, I have a pair of noise-reducing headphones, and I listen primarily to lyric-free music. Just a bit of noise to keep me focused. I sit at my desk, but I suspect that I'll be converting to a standing desk soon because I don't want to die early. I also tend to keep some snacks (nuts) and beverages around my desk so that food and water don't lower my focus threshold. Though there's one big anomaly here: I'm not working in an office with that many people in it. I don't have a lot of meetings to take. I'm not managing anyone right now. For that though, I suggest consolidating all meetings into the afternoon and make them back to back. That way, you're getting them out of the way and you have solid, long blocks of time to focus on getting things done.

Synopsis

Like all exercise, different kinds of workouts work differently for different people. For me, interval training works wonders — this blog post, for instance, has taken me 70 minutes to research and write — ordinarily a blog post like this before I had this set-up would take me nearly a full day's worth of work. More importantly though, I'm able to do things like read long articles or even academic papers — things I never used to "have time for" which really meant "had attention for."
If you think you're having focus problems — if the concept of provigil appeals to you, or you've thought "oh if I could only get my hands on some ritalin," think about setting up an attention fitness regimen for yourself instead. My general advice:
  1. Do slightly less than you think you're capable of
  2. Increase your capacity while staying under that bar (#1)
  3. You're not going to run the attention fitness equivalent of a marathon today. Start slow.
Your brain, like your body, is only a result of what you train it to do. Attention fitness, like any other kind of fitness, takes time even to get into a routine. But once you make it a habit, it starts to pay off.
Clay Johnson blogs at Infovegan.com, a blog about information dieting and civic accountability. He was formerly the director of Sunlight Labs at the Sunlight Foundation and founder of Blue State Digital — the technology company behind Barack Obama's web site.
Friday, July 16, 2010

9 Ways To Manage People Who Bother You - Stepcase Lifehack

Ever faced people who bother you? I’m sure all of us have faced such people before. It’s okay when we have to face them just once or twice, but there are times when these people emerge in facets of our life where we have to deal with them on an ongoing basis. They can be business associates, fellow colleagues, friends, or even family members and relatives. In such cases, we have to learn how to deal with them. Here are my 9 tips to handle such people:

1. You can only change yourself.

When dealing with people, always remember that it’s not about changing others, but about changing yourself. You can try to change others, but you may not succeed doing so. The best way to address the situation is to change how you perceive it and how you react to it. By changing that, everything else will subsequently change as well.

2. Draw your boundaries.

Be clear on what you will tolerate and what you will not tolerate. Then stick with it. You have your own personal space and it’s your perogative to protect your space. By drawing the boundaries, even if just mentally, you are clearer of the kind of behaviors to expect from others. If you don’t do so, it’s easy for you to be pushed over by others, especially since such people tend not to be conscious of personal boundaries. You’ll wind up shrinking in a corner and feeling miserable, and you wouldn’t want that.

3. Be upfront about where you stand.

If the person has a history of spilling into your personal space, then let him/her know where you stand the next time you communicate. People aren’t mind readers, and sometimes they may not be aware that they are infringing on your space. Giving the person some indicators will help. If he/she tends to take up a lot of your time, then let him/her know that you have XX minutes at the onstart of the conversation. That way, you are being fair by informing him/her in advance. If you prefer to communicate via email/text/chat/other channels, then let him/her know too.

4. Be firm when needed.

If the person does not stick within the boundaries, then enforce them. Give a gentle reminder at first. If he/she still does not get the hint, then make a call and draw the line right there. I used to be very relenting in my communications. I would attend the person for however long it took. In the end it enroached on my personal space, and I wasn’t sure if all that time and energy I spent ever did anything too. As I gradually pushed back and became firm on my boundaries, I was a lot more fulfilled. I realized if I wasn’t meeting my needs, I couldn’t be helping anyone with theirs.

5. Ignore them.

Ignoring is effective in the right moments. When you respond, you give them a reason to continue their behavior. If you just ignore, they don’t have a choice but to seek out someone else. Not only that, it also hints to them about their behavior and helps them do some self-reflection.

6. Don’t take it personally.

Most of the times, these people behave the same way around others too. I had a friend who was very negative. She always had something to criticize whenever we were together. At first I thought she had something against me, but after I observed her interacting with our common friends, I realized she was like that with everyone else too. Realizing it wasn’t anything personal helped me deal with her objectively.

7. Observe how others handle them.

Watching others deal with the same person you find annoying can be an eye-opening perspective. Even if the person may be at his/her wits-end handling the individual, just observing from a third party’s point of view can give you insights on how to manage. The next time you are with this person, get someone else into the conversation too. Take a back seat by broaching a topic that’s relevant between the two of them, then play the silent role in the situation. Observe how the other party handles him/her. Try this exercise with different people – from savvy networkers, someone you find difficult to deal with as well, someone similar to you, etc. You will get interesting results.

8. Show kindness.

Often times, they act the way they do because they are looking for an empathetic ear. Hear what they have to say, and be empathetic towards them. Give them some friendly act of kindness. Don’t impose on them, but just be there and empathize. It might well do the trick.
There was once when I had a long talk with a client on an issue she was facing. Later in the week, I sent her an sms telling her that ultimately it boiled down to her, and as long as she believed in herself, there was nothing insurmountable. Many weeks after that, we were catching up, and she told me how the message was really encouraging for her. She normally deleted all her smses but left that one in her phone. A little kind act from you may take little effort on your part but mean the world to others.

9. Help them.

Beneath the facade is really a cry for help. Check with them if they need any help, or if there is anything you can do to help them. Sometimes, it’s possible they require help but they don’t know how to articulate it. Help them to uncover their problem, then work with them to analyze the issue and discover the solution. It’s important to still let them take charge in the situation, because the end outcome is you want them to learn to take control of the situation, and not grow dependent on you for help.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010

How to Afford Anything

How to Afford Anything
© 2008 KenRockwell.com. All rights reserved.



I get my goodies at Ritz, Amazon and Adorama. It helps me keep adding to this site when you get yours from those links, too.

January 2008

Introduction





I personally buy from Adorama, Amazon, Ritz, B&H and J&R. I can't vouch for ads below.




People ask me how I afford all this camera stuff. Easy: I beg, borrow, and sometimes even buy it. I certainly don't still own everything I've reviewed here since 1999. I've also had real jobs for many years which pays for what I do buy, and I live like a hermit otherwise.

That's the easy answer, but then I realized that I've always had a knack for buying expensive toys long before I'd ever had a job. Hopefully my cheapskate tricks can help you, too, which is why I share them here.

Our ability to buy expensive toys has nothing to do with how much money we do or don't earn. Like everything in life, it has everything to do with how well you use what you have.

I bought my first expensive single-lens reflex camera when I was an 11 year old kid. I saved my allowance, and still couldn't afford film. My dad was kind enough to buy me a roll every month or so if I was good.

When we were little kids, my brother asked my dad "How come Kenny always can buy expensive things, but I can't, and we get the same allowance?" My dad responded that it was because my brother insisted on going out and buying everything as soon as he wanted it, but that I waited, saved, and did my homework to find the same things for less.

Today that same brother, who has never had a real job as far as we know, has been traveling the world ever since he was in college. When asked how he does it with no particular source of income, he responds that "most people are too stupid to be poor." By that he means that most people waste what money they do have on stupid things, like new cars and eating in restaurants, and don't instead buy their food at the grocery store while traveling. He travels by carefully checking auctions for other peoples' unused weeks of time shares, so he will travel when he can bag a week in Paris or Tobago for just a couple of hundred dollars. He has to be ready to travel on a moment's notice when he wins these auctions, another advantage of having no real job.

When I was in college I bought one of the world's first digital audio recorders to record my music gigs. I had never had a real job in my life. This was in 1981, two years before the CD came out and back when digital audio was beyond the means of most professional recording studios. Digital audio recorders cost the same as a house!

I was 19. I bought the then-revolutionary new Sony PCM-F1, which sold for the amazingly low sum of $1,900 in 1981 ($4,400 in today's money). The next cheapest recorder had cost $50,000 the week before. I also had to buy a Betamax video recorder on which to save the data, an additional $1,100. Back in those days, VCRs were still as exotic as helicopters. This cost me a total of $3,000 in 1981 dollars, or $7,000 in today's money.

How the heck could I do that? For comparison, my car had cost only $650!!!

If a kid can afford toys more expensive than Nikon D3s, using their own very limited funds, anyone can.

Sorry if this article starts to read like a self-help video, but honestly, if you can't afford these things today, you're going to have to make some changes in your life if you want to. It doesn't take money. It takes the guts to be a cheapskate.

What I'll describe has always worked for me. I hope it helps you. Everyone's situations are different, but hopefully my skinflint lifestyle will give you the idea. This is all about prioritization and not wasting what you do have, so if you prioritize differently or enjoy spending money on something I consider wasteful, go right ahead. I certainly don't intend to offend anyone.



Cheap versus Frugal

I usually use the word "cheap" instead of frugal, but I mean frugal. I use "cheap" because it sounds funnier.

Cheap means buying something obvious crappy, and only stupid people do that since they usually cost themselves more in the long run. For instance, a cheap person hires the wrong person to do a job, and winds up paying more to have a competent person have to fix the damage done by the first workman. Cheap means giving your girlfriend flowers picked out of a funeral home dumpster, and leaving the wrong sympathy card attached to them, That's going to cost you a lot more than you just saved!

Frugality is entirely different. Being frugal means using your money well and not wasting. Being frugal often involves spending large sums on the right things, like hiring competent professionals to do a job, or buying a more durable, quality product that lasts far longer than a regular one.

Everywhere I use the word "cheap" below, please realize I mean "frugal."

Yes, as you may guess, I am part Scottish.



Prioritization

Half of being able to afford what you want is to spend your money on what you really want.

This should be obvious, but most people are suckered out of their biggest chunks of money by blowing it on the wrong things. People spend money on the wrong things because the people who take that money make it so comfortable and easy.

Never Buy a New Car

I've only bought one new car in my life. That was over 20 years ago.

When I sold it just a few years later, I had lost $15,000 in today's money. Wow. That was stupid! That was three exotic Nikons lost forever. I've never bought a new car since. Think I'm rich? Guess again!

Millions of Americans buy new cars every year. Every one of those people just pissed away much more than the price of an exotic new camera.

Sure, I drive a Mercedes. Actually, I drive two Mercedes! I bought my first Mercedes from a friend in 1992. It looked and drove as if it was brand new. I sold it to my insurance company a year and 12,000 miles later after someone drove into it for $1,000 more than it cost me. I made money on this deal, far better than losing $15,000 on my new Ford that I sold when I got that Mercedes.

I bought my second used Mercedes in 1993 for less than my sillier friends paid for a new Ford Taurus. All my pals thought I was loaded, since I was now driving what looked exactly like the new Mercedes you could buy at the dealer. Back then, Mercedes were still rare, expensive and exotic: my bottom-of-the line Mercedes sold new for the equivalent of $50,000 in today's dollars, and just like most Mercedes, looked exactly like the middle-of-the-line $80,000 (today's dollars) Mercedes of its day. I bought it after many months of searching for just the right one in perfect condition. I drove that Mercedes for 12 years and 80,000 miles, and sold it for only $6,000 less than it cost me! It still looked new, and the only reason I'm not still driving it today is because my vain wife wanted me to be in a newer looking car.

Today I drive a couple of shiny Mercedes. Big deal. Sillier people think I'm rich. One of my two Mercedes is a convertible that cost over $100,000 new, but for which I also paid less than everyone else pays for new Ford Taureses. I bought this convertible after I had been unemployed for over two months, hah! Guess what my convertible will be worth when I sell it? About what I paid for it. It's essentially a free car!

Maybe you can, but I simply can't afford to drive a Ford.

The people who want to sell you a new car do everything they can to make it easy to take your money. It takes a great deal of self control to resist. Let's face it: everyone deserves a new car every couple of years, and if you can afford it, why not? Simple: because it costs you tens of thousands of dollars that you could spend on more fun, or even on better cars if you do your homework and buy used.

Don't Commute

I've never commuted by car.

Call me wishful, but I've made this happen by only applying for jobs in places near my home, or in places to which I'd enjoy moving. I would never apply for a job someplace in which I would not want to live.

I've always taken my bicycle, or walked.

Like many things, it takes longer to find something, but the savings and quality of life more than makes up for the wait.

Let's look at fast numbers. The shortest reasonable commute is 10 miles (16 km) each way. (Anything shorter is bad for your car, since it won't heat up all the way and boil off the water that condenses from the exhaust in your cold engine. This water dilutes your oil and rusts your exhaust. Engine wear is far, far greater in the few miles during engine warm up, too.)

10 miles each way is 20 miles a day. There are 250 work days a year, or 5,000 miles a year for commuting. At 50¢ a mile, the latest averages for running a car, that's $2,500 a year.

$2,500 a year???? Eliminate this expense alone and you just saved enough to buy yourself every professional Nikon camera as soon as it's announced! Honest–a new $5,000 camera comes out less than once every 2 years today. For instance, you could have bought yourself:

1957: Nikon SP

1959: Nikon F ($1,000 in today's dollars)

1971: Nikon F2 ($1,000)

1978: Nikon F2AS ($1,500)

1980: Nikon F3 ($1,500)

1988: Nikon F4 ($2,000)

1996: Nikon F5 (Less than $2,000)

1999: Nikon D1 ($5,000)

2001: Nikon D1X ($5,000)

2004: Nikon D2X (5,000) and Nikon F6 ($2,300)

2007: Nikon D3 ($5,000)

This is easy. You can't spend $2,500 a year buying Nikon's top cameras even if you tried. Commute any more than 10 miles each way, and costs skyrocket. It costs an extra $250 a year for every single mile you add! Commute 40 miles each way, and that's $10,000 after-tax dollars down the drain that could have been used for toys.

But wait - $2,500 a year lets you buy and keep all these exotic new cameras. I don't know about you, but I dumped my D1H as soon as I got my D70. Sell each camera as the better one arrives, and you also greatly reduce the cost of buying them.

I once flinched when I had to spend a whole $40 for new tires for my mountain bike. I realized that if I hadn't been riding my bike to work, that I wouldn't have put all the miles and wear on my bike. Then I considered the cost if I had taken my car to work each day instead!

Another advantage of not commuting by car is the benefit to our environment. Buying a new Prius is the worst thing anyone can do for the environment, but it's exactly what big car makers want you to do. Car makers and tire makers and the oil companies want you to keep buying and using new cars. The last thing they want you to do is to do the healthy thing (take your bike,) which would make you stronger, fitter, better looking, happier and more resistant to disease simply by changing how you get to work.

Another advantage of not wasting your car to get to work is that you can have fun cars. Instead of being stuck in a boring commuter car for hours every day, you can get a real car worth driving. You won't be wearing it out. Heck; I honestly can't even remember when I last bought gas for any of the gas-sucking V8 hot rods sitting in my garage, since I drive them so infrequently. My wife's 521 horsepower twin-turbo V-8 minivan uses far less gas than any Prius, simply because she never drives it.

Don't Eat Out

I've never needed to budget because I've always been so cheap that I've never needed it.

In 2003 when I wanted to see if I could quit my real job to work on this website instead full-time, I for the first time mapped out every dollar I had spent the past year. I needed to see just how much it cost me to live.

I was amazed at how much money I spent at restaurants, and I rarely ate out. It added up to hundreds of dollars every month, and I usually cooked for myself!

Unless you're eating off the dollar menu at fast food (as I have always done), cook your own food!

Don't Buy a Big House

Live just a tiny bit below your means and you'll always have more money than you need. I always have been a cheapskate and always will be.

One rule by which I've always lived is that if you only spend 99% of what you have, you always have more money than you know what to do with. Heaven help you if you spend just a drop more than comes in, say 101%, because you now will always be in deeper and deeper debt. You're screwed!

I bought my first condo when I was 25. It was much less than I could have afforded, but so what: I'll be darned if I was going to spend money on a mortgage instead of enjoying life. I lived there for almost 20 years, and only left when my wife insisted I move into her fancy-dancy house. (Houses are her hobby just as I'm into photography, so she's had more nice houses than I've had cameras.)

My condo was so nasty that I cried when I moved in. It was awful, but it was a place I came to love as the years rolled on and I renovated it. It also meant I always had cash to burn on anything that really mattered. I also was where I wanted to live, far more important than in what you live.

But don't people always make money in real estate?

Yes and no.

After selling my condo of 17 years, sure, I sold it at the top of California's recent real estate bubble for four times what I paid. But wait: unlike a financial investment, I had to pay mortgage interest, taxes, utilities, repairs, homeowner associations and loads of other expenses. I added it all up, and I made an average of only 1% a year! If I wanted to make money, I would have been far better off putting that money in any bank savings account.

It's important to realize that the benefit received from owning real estate is being able to live in and enjoy that property. It is not financial profit, in fact, because so many innocent Americans people believed that real estate only goes up, many are now homeless.

Here in California in 2008, we see thousands of former home-owning Californians joining the ranks of the homeless as their adjustable-rate mortgages adjust to more then they can afford. Responsible salespeople would never sell someone something like this, but not all salespeople are responsible.

Just like the gigantic sales, advertising and marketing engines which make everyone buy new cars, real estate salespeople spend their lives trying to mortgage you to way beyond your means. It makes them more commission to sell you a bigger house than you can afford. Worse, if you get evicted after defaulting on your loans, real estate people earn commissions again in the foreclosure sale! Real estate salespeople, just like stock brokers, make money every time you do a transaction, regardless if you're wining or losing.

So yes, buy a house, but do it to have a place to live. Don't do it because you think it's going to enable you to buy more toys.

If you buy and sell often as my wife has, one learns never to sell in a down market. Rent your pad out and sell in a couple of years. Today, buy in California's imploding real estate market and hold until it comes back.

If houses are your hobby, as they are to my wife, go hog-wild. If you want to have fancy cameras and travel the world enjoying them, then get a decent condo as I did.



Patience and Diligence

I take a lot of time to find what I want to buy. I waited for over twenty years before I bought my first personal computer, since I couldn't bring myself to buy one knowing next week they would be better, faster and cheaper.

I only bought my first computer when I needed a Mac to develop this website back in 2000 when the sorry windows computers my employer provided wouldn't cut it. (If all you do are email and web surfing, all I ever used were my employer's computers. I wouldn't buy my own computer for anything that I could do at work for free.)

When I buy a used car or camera, I may spend months looking until the perfect sample appears. When it does, I jump all over it, but if it doesn't, I don't worry.

Sadly digital cameras don't work this way. I buy used lenses all the time, but would never buy a used digital camera. Digital cameras go obsolete faster than their used prices drop. I certainly would sell a digital camera as soon as I finished with it, since it's not going up in value!



Thrift

"A luxury, once sampled, becomes a necessity."

Don't try or borrow fancy stuff. The first time you touch that new camera, you're going to think you need and deserve it.

Rent or test drive a nice new car, and suddenly your perfectly good one seems crappy.

Stay in a really nice hotel once, and suddenly you think you "need" to stay in better places.

Don't do it!

If You Must Eat Out

I'm really cheap. I always order the least expensive thing, and skip beverages and extras. This sounds silly, but if you eat out often, simply skipping these high-profit extras can buy you an expensive camera in a few years.

I eat off the dollar menu at fast food. I don't get suckered into buying a drink or fries. I love the $1 double cheeseburger at McDonalds, but if I ordered a drink or fries, I just padded the bill up to triple what it might have been.

I always drink just water. I love water! Almost every fast food and real restaurant operates a water filtration system for all its beverages and cooking. When you order water, even if you order "just tap water," it almost always is reverse-osmosis filtered and tastes great. I'm a big fan of water and notice these things.

Always Check the Check or Register Scan

Always make sure that your restaurant check has the correct items and prices. About one out of ten times we eat out, someone has tried to cheat my wife out of a few dollars here or there. Don't be embarrassed to ask to look at the menu again: when we think the price for an item on our check is off by a dollar or two, it always is.

When checking out at the supermarket, pay attention to the register as it scans. Often my local Von's wouldn't bother to update the sale prices in their computers, so less eagle-eyed shoppers wouldn't notice that items were scanning at the regular price instead of the lower sale price posted in the aisles. Your county may vary, but here in San Diego, when a scan comes out at a different price than the price marked, you're entitled to that item, FREE. That's free as in FREE, not as in at the lower price.

A lot of people get ripped off by supermarket staff and management "forgetting" to update the sale prices in the computer system, but at least a few of us get freebies.

Be polite yet firm. The whole line will have to wait while they send another checker back to check the price on the shelf. Be sure to point out to the others behind you in line that you're all having to wait because it's the store trying to rip you all off, not because you are a problem customer.

Go Dutch

This isn't the way to win favor among women, but it is a way to save money.

I've never paid for my girlfriends, but this was more out of bad upbringing than cheapness. I never knew better.

My wife has explained this to me today as something I'll need to know if she ever croaks, although of course we still both pay our own ways.

Live with Your Parents

I'm serious: This is what I did!

If you want fancy gear and don't make much money, don't move out!

I only moved out because I wanted a garage for my fancy cars, and mom and dad already filled the garage. I also wanted to move from New York to California, and that made it a clear choice.

My fancy car at the time was a 4-speed 455 HO 1970 GTO convertible which I was restoring. It was 14 years old when I bought it.

When I first started working after college, my pals all wasted their money on new cars. They all laughed when I started driving my pre-restoration $1,100 GTO to work, complete in varying shades of primer. They poked fun of me all the time.

I then drove my first parts-getter car, my $650 1974 Plymouth Duster mentioned at the top, to work for the next few months while the GTO was in the body shop. When I drove my sparkling-new white GTO, complete with brand new bumpers and chrome to work, they all presumed I had buckled to pressure and bought a new car, but since this was 1985, they had no idea what the GTO was.

When I explained that it was the same crappy dung-heap I was driving a few months earlier, but now restored externally, they then all changed their stories to "Oh, we always liked that car." My hot-rod cost me a third of what they paid for their forgettable Japanese appliances, and what do you think a 1985 Civic is worth today compared to the GTO?

I sold the GTO in 1986 when I bought my new Ford Mustang GT convertible, which was much faster, but cost me dearly as you read above as my only new car ever. My excuse was that it honestly was the first new car in 15 years that had genuinely high performance as the first car to be designed to work well natively with all the emissions controls.

By living with my parents I saved gazillions of dollars, which let me buy whatever toys I wanted. Unless I was getting married or buying my own place, this is a huge money-saver.

Don't Buy on Credit or Take out Loans

Only buy what you can afford. Don't buy anything until you have the cash to pay for it.

Half of America doesn't get that, and spends all its money barely making the minimum monthly interest payments on their credit cards each month. GAG!

This is awful. Few people have enough self control not to spend. We get all the pleasure by whipping out our card and satisfying ourselves today, while the payment part is way off in the future.

Sadly this is the genius plan of credit card companies, for whom your 30-day future becomes every day for the rest of your life making interest payments. They want you to get in so deep you'll never be able to get out!

When it comes time to pay, VISA or Mastercard doesn't want your money! They want you to make the bare minimum payment and get in deeper. They love charging you far more interest than any other loan would. The credit card companies collect 18% interest from you, while the money they loan to you costs them only a few percent.

They easily take in 10% profit per year from you on every dollar you have racked up.

They love it when you max out your cards and have no possible way to pay off the balance. This is the slavery condition in which they would love to have every cardholder. That's why they give away cards like candy, especially to students and other people they know can't possibly pay them off.

The few people that they do break (bankrupt) aren't a concern. These companies make so much money on the other people that it easily covers the defaults.

Don't let this happen to you. The only way to use a credit card is to pay it off in full each and every month. Never buy anything for which you don't have cash ready to pay the bill when it becomes due. I always have, and have never paid one penny of credit card interest my entire life! Credit card companies have a insiders word for people like me: freeloaders. Tough, call me whatever names you want, I'm not going to fall into their credit-card Hell.

Never, ever use a credit card for credit, simply because the interest rates are too high. If you need a loan, go get one, and pay it off fast.

If you can't afford it, don't buy it. That's the most important rule here.

Read and Understand the Fine Print

You can screw yourself with variable-rate loans. When I bought my condo in 1988 I had an adjustable rate mortgage (ARM) at 13%. It could adjust up by up to 5%, but it never did.

If it did, my rate would have been 18%. Not good, but not catastrophic for me since before I signed any papers I made sure I could pay my mortgage even if it hit 18%. My payments would have been less than 50% above what they were at the start.

People are defaulting on loans and becoming homeless today in California because they were stretched too far by shifty short-time salespeople into ARM loans at 3%. This was great and helped them to qualify, and if the market only went up, all would be fine since if they really got tight they could sell their home for a profit.

Of course the market also goes down. These recent ARMs also had adjustment caps of about 5%, but that means that the interest rate could adjust from 3% to 8%. Whoops! That means that the monthly payment could more than double. People, already stretched too far, can't find two or three times as much for their monthly payments, and are evicted from their houses which are now worth less than the paid. Whoops! The people who sold them these loans probably never explained that part!

Don't Rent

I've never rented a house or apartment. Whenever I've moved to a new city I've always just rented a room in house from the owner who also lived there, even when I had real jobs that paid me six fat figures, before I bought something myself.

Rent is money pissed away and never seen again. If you have a good time or it's a business expense which makes you more money, great, but if you want to have more money than you need, this is not a good idea.

Renting a room is cheap. Renting an apartment. or a house is serious money never seen again.



Don't Worry About Being Embarrassed

The people who want to take your money want to embarrass you into paying full price, embarrass you not to use coupons while out on a date, embarrass you into not wanting to make returns or ask for a deal.

I find it far more embarrassing not to be able to afford something I need because I was too weak to stand up for myself in front of strangers. Do it.

Don't Worry About What You Own

Rule one: How rich you are is determined by how much money you have, not by what you own.

What you own is how much money you've given away to others! Once you've bought this junk, you no longer have your money.

I like nice cars, and work on them as my hobby so they don't cost me anything as I've explained above. When one group did a survey a few years ago, they discovered that the most popular car owned by millionaires was a Ford. Why? Simple: the people who still had and grew their money didn't waste it on luxuries to show off. All showing off does is make others spend more effort trying to scam you.

Don't be Afraid to Ask for a Deal

Americans are the only people on the planet who walk into a store and pay the price on the sign.

My wife and I always ask for the deal. I've gotten price concessions even at Sears! I love my wife because she is such a deal-getter. I couldn't afford not to have her, for instance, last week she haggled a mattress store down to half of their bottom-basement posted sales price on a floor sample! She paid about one-third the new sales price of the item. Few Americans have the mettle to haggle as well as she does.

Deals happen when you're the only buyer, usually for oddball stuff like floor samples and slightly-damaged or discontinued merchandise. We also shop bad neighborhoods, where we can get deals on premium merchandise that won't move in the disenfranchised areas.

We love Wal-Mart and Costco. They have the best prices on almost everything. We're not afraid to admit it; we think people who shop boutiques to buy the same things in fancier surroundings are stupid. Now that we've been so cheap for so many years, we own far more fancy stuff than our vainer acquaintances who threw their money away.

Deals don't happen for new, hard-to-get items for which there are waiting lists, like new digital cameras. People offering deals on these are scams.

My favorite book about getting a better price anywhere is Herb Cohen's classic You Can Negotiate Anything. This $8 book has saved me tens of thousands of dollars. For instance, it saved me $20,000 on my condo back in 1988 when I made a ridiculous offer, and the seller took it! (I didn't pay $8 for the book; I borrowed it from the public library for free, and later bought a copy for $1 from their discard rack.)

Return What You Don't Want or Don't Need

I return what I don't need. It's always a little embarrassing, since stores don't want to take your returns and most people are too shy to admit they screwed up.

I've returned a $50,000 BMW after 9 months for full price, and my wife, the "Return Queen," not to be out done by an amateur like me, once returned a $2.8 million dollar house.

The BMW, used of course, had been damaged by the dealer after I bought it. It took nine months of persistence, but they took it back.

Warning: It is fraudulent to buy something with the intent to return it when you are finished using it. Return-fraud costs retailers billions of dollars each year. The losers who used to kid about "renting" a camcorder from Circuit City have now made it more difficult for the greater majority of real customers like me to return something that genuinely needs to be returned.

Only Buy from Stores that Give Full Cash Refunds

I've been buying from Adorama and B&H since the 1970s not only because they have the best prices, but also because if something doesn't work as well as I'd like it to, I can return it for a full refund.

I never get stuck with something that doesn't measure up to the expectations set by advertising.

If a store charges restocking fees, avoid them.

Of course the places that do offer refunds require you return the item exactly as you bought it. I never throw away my boxes, and in fact have never even opened the printed manuals and software for my years-old Nikon D70 with the view of eventual resale. (I get all the software and manuals online.)

Use Coupons

Do I use coupons at restaurants? Yes! Did I use them when I was on dates? YES! Would I use a two-for-one coupon for the $1.50 hot dogs at Costco? YES!, if they offered them.

I have a pal who retired from being very high-up in one of San Diego's largest businesses. We never chatted about it, but since most rank-and file employees there had been multimillionaires from stock options for many years, and he was there for decades longer, for all I know, he's a billionaire.

One time we set up a double-date, and he asked me "are you far along with this girl for us to use coupons?" I busted out laughing, and pointed out that I used coupons on the first date!

An even better story was from a friend who was out golfing in Arizona. A weird little old guy who looked vaguely familiar came up to them, and was all excited at the coupon he had just used to save $10 off his greens fee. He was so excited and friendly he offered them a couple of the extra coupons he had. They thanked him and didn't think much of it until they were reading the paper a few days later and recognized a picture of the funny old guy. He was a local billionaire!

Don't whine to me if you think coupons are below you. They are only below me when they take more time to collect and manage than the money saved.

I use coupons because I like to keep my money. It impresses no one if you're silly enough to throw money away that you don't have to.



Investments versus Expenditures

Some things, like cameras and houses, can be resold. Their real cost is what you pay minus what you can get for it later.

As you've seen, I'm crafty enough to drive my Mercedes for free, since I spend a lot of time finding used ones in new condition and keeping them that way.

Otherwise, cars are always an expenditure. Beware some car makers that lie to us pretending that buying a car is some sort of financial strategy: it isn't.

Cars are always an expenditure. Even though I often don't lose anything selling a car or motorcycle (I sold my BMW motorcycle 20 years later for exactly what I had paid for it), I enjoy my toys and expend considerable energy on their upkeep and finding them in the first place. This harkens back to what my dad said about me doing my homework: doing homework costs time.

Cameras can be almost free. My friend, humanitarian photojournalist Karl Grobl, first observed this a decade ago when he sold his Nikon N6006 after a few years of hauling it all over the world and getting a huge amount of use out of it. It was expensive when he bought it new, but he sold it, after much use, for not much less than he paid for it. After that, he realized that cameras, especially if you use them to earn your living as he does today, don't cost much at all.

Karl also was smart enough to invest in lenses, not cameras. The N6006 was a cheap body, but he used the professional 80-200mm f/2.8 and 20-35mm f/2.8 lenses with it, which he used with his next Nikon, and would still work flawlessly today on the D3.

See also Lenses vs. Cameras: Where the Smart Money Goes. Digital bodies are always a bad monetary investment, and lenses are almost always good long-term photographic investments. Where you spend you money is all about your prioritization; see also Is It Worth It?



Avoid Addiction

If you enjoy something so much that you're wiling to sacrifice other things, go for it. If not, don't fall prey to addictive drugs used to keep you buying products you don't need.

Caffeine

Many Americans each waste many dollars every day on products laced with addictive narcotics.

Caffeine is an addictive drug called 1,3,7-trimethylxanthine by scientists. It has the same effects and addictive qualities as its sister drug, cocaine. Coffee and cola products come from the same fields in Central America. Coca-Cola is named after the first four letters of cocaine.

Caffeine is added to products to addict us to ensure we keep buying more. As I recall, Consumer Reports drove across to Canada and bought some drug-free versions of cola products. CU then ran taste-tests against the dope-laden American versions, no one could taste the difference in blind tests!

Please forgive my self-help tone here, but I prefer to wake up before dawn and get plenty of sleep.

I'm always loaded with energy precisely because I don't drink Coke or Pepsi products during the day, and I certainly don't drug myself with coffee in the morning.

I love the taste of cola. When I've drunk it for lunch, I get the high from it that afternoon, but it's harder to settle down and get to sleep. When I try to get up the next day, I'm tired from less sleep from the night before. By lunch the next, day, the best-feeling thing to do is drink more Coke or Pepsi to jolt myself back up.

Most Americans do this to themselves every morning with coffee.

When I enforced my own ban on caffeine, after a day or two I was astounded at how much better I felt. I pop out of bed before dawn raring to go, and I fall right to sleep at bedtime. I get far more done, and feel far, far better.

If you save $5 a day by skipping a latte, you'll feel better, make more money, have more fun and save almost $2,000 every year. I don't know how much Starbucks actually charges for each dose, but give it up for a couple of years and you again just paid for a free new exotic camera.

Nicotine

I won't even go here. You people know who you are.

I have a friend who beat her addiction simply by stopping and toughing it out. She is from Texas; I don't know if mere Americans are tough enough to beat nicotine this way.

Government isn't here to help you. The only way to beat this is on your own.

If big business has its way, which it usually does since those with the gold make the rules, business will suck every penny you have out of you until you can't earn any more and are left dead or dying. This is the way a competitive economy works: there are winners and there are losers.

The great thing about America is that anyone who wants to can achieve anything, limited only by their imaginations, but the bad thing is that those who just want to slide along in life usually slide off a cliff to the benefit of those who are paying attention.

Television

I spent decades working in television, but I haven't watched TV since the 1960s. It's like people who work in a rat poison plant: they would never actually eat the product themselves.

Watching television makes you stupid.

More serious than long-term stupidity is that you fall behind when you waste your time watching TV or playing video games. For every second that one person wastes watching TV, another person is using that same time learning or doing something productive. In a free economy, life is a race. If you're not moving, you're falling behind.

When I was seven years old I realized that although I enjoyed great shows like "The Beverly Hillbillies," "Star Trek," "The Munsters" and "Get Smart," that watching them wasn't making me any smarter or more interesting.

Today's TV is far worse. Just don't watch TV, and that goes double for PBS. PBS makes you just as stupid, even if it lets you pretend that you're smarter than other people. If you enjoy comedy as I do, go watch one of those shows I mentioned that we all considered stupid back then. By today's standards, they are fine classic theater. They have intelligent humor, plots and real storylines that make it through the entire show.

I'm serious about not watching TV. I haven't owned a TV since the 1960s.

If you must watch TV, watch kid's cartoons. Kid's cartoons still have plots and characters. Try Sponge Bob and The Fairly Odd Parents.



Forget Extended Warranties

In fact, forget any sort of insurance for any loss you could cover out-of pocket.

It always costs more to pay money into a system, have them manage it, and hope that they pay out when needed.

Extended warranties on electronics are always just to make more money for stores.

Personally I love getting the factory extended-warranties for my Mercedes, but that's because Mercedes really does stand behind it, and the presence of a factory warranty makes a car very easy to buy or sell. It makes me feel good, but costs me more than paying for any repairs if needed.

When I bought my own health insurance, I had a plan that was inexpensive, but had a $5,000 annual deductible. If I had a serious problem, I could find $5,000. I saved about $3,600 in annual premium (I paid $300 a month less for this insurance) by not having a small deductible, and always came out ahead. Never ask an insurance company to pay something you could afford to pay for yourself. You pay heavily for that privilege, if they pay out at all.

If you have your own business, then taxes may change this. Ask your accountant, not me.



The Poor Man Pays Twice

If you really want something, buy it, or wait until you can.

Don't buy something that isn't what you really want. If you do, you'll keep dreaming about what you really wanted, and eventually get it. When you do, you've just paid twice.

Worse, as mentioned at the top, if you have a job done by the lowest bidder, you're going to need to pay the highest bidder double to fix the damage done by the first guy.



Tip Big

I always tip big. Anyone who is helping me out and to whom I don't have to pay anything deserves a huge tip.

Tipping isn't an expense: it's an investment in good times for all. If you can afford the service, then you can afford an even fatter tip.

If you're on expense account, tipping costs you nothing: you're tipping with other people's money.

People who receive tips almost always appreciate the tip far more than you do, effectively magnifying your money. When I drop a $10 tip on a $40 meal, that $10 means more like $20 to the server. I've turned $10 into $20. You can't afford not to tip.

Single guys: women don't give a crap what kind of car you have. They don't even know what it is, besides the color. They do look very closely at how you tip. They look closely because it tells everything about your character. Since tipping is optional after a service is rendered and after the person providing the service has no way to get you back if you don't tip, the fact that you tip big or small is far more important than your weiner. A Porsche tells every woman that you're a little short in some areas; a big tip just made points. (Not that I really know any of this stuff about women!)

Tip big. When you get to apply for entrance into Heaven, your tipping records are among the first things reviewed. They are reviewed for Christian Heaven, Hindu Karma, and probably every religion on earth. Tipping is always a great idea. Some things are more important than saving a few bucks now - stingy tips are always a bad idea.

If you can't afford the tip, then you can't afford the service. Stay home and go out when you can, which saves even more money.

If service sucks, which it rarely does, hold back, but be sure you give what you held-back to the next person you tip.



Marry Smart

This isn't about marrying someone rich–that's marrying well.

Marrying smart means to marry someone as cheap as you are.

Your woman is always in charge. If she's as silly with her money as most people, after you're married, you can forget about having any money ever again.

A woman's job is to spend your money. If she hasn't shown that she can spend her own money well, she certainly won't spend yours any better.

I got lucky with my wife. She's even cheaper than I am, but she's rare.

Want to know how cheap she is? She hates flowers because she can't bear knowing that they die in a week and then the money is gone. She'd rather just have the money. I sometimes leave a $20 on the counter. When she asks "what's this?" I respond "flowers." She then gets all smiley. Marriage is weird.



Don't Have Kids

I won't go here either. Kids today are an expensive luxury. It's not 200 years ago when we all lived on farms and needed them to help with the milking.

Not only are they scaldingly expensive, they are the root cause of all pollution and environmental destruction.

Think about it. Do you have any idea from where more people come for whom we need more oil and for whom we need to bulldoze more virgin landscapes to build tract homes for them to live and raise more kids?

Sure, my kid is special: it's not my kid, but everyone else's kids that cause pollution, poverty, shortage and crowding. Think again.

Kids go far deeper than the thousands of disposable diapers each consumes. The worst environmental crime any individual can commit is making more people. Sure, my kid might cure cancer, but we are up to something like 7 billion people on this planet and no one's kid has cured it yet. My kid is far more likely to degrade your environment and cause more cancer than he is ever likely to cure it. Isn't hope grand?

Even more expensive than the monetary cost is that they consume any time you ever thought you might have to better your personal and professional development. They are far worse than watching TV.

Ever wonder why half the ads on TV are for baby stuff? Because half our economy goes into paying for that baby stuff.

Sorry, Ryan, I said I wouldn't go here, so I won't.



How to Make Money

I saved this for last because how much money one makes has nothing to do with much of anything. In fact, I had a lot more fun when I made a lot less money. When you have a lot of money, it's a pain to deal with. Jesus wasn't kidding when he told us that the way to Heaven is to sell all your crap and give it to the poor.

As you may have noticed, I would probably scrape along just fine with no money at all. I've only worked real jobs because I've enjoyed them, not because I owe anyone anything. As I've said, I quit my last real job in 2004 so I could piddle around on this website full time instead of working for a living.

Don't Become a Photographer

According to Education Portal in 2002, the average annual salary of people employed as photographers was $24,040. See more about why becoming a pro photographer is a bad way to make money at How to Go Pro.

Gag! If you want to make real money, get a real job. That's how I have always afforded everything!

Go to College and Get a Real Job

In high school, I wanted to graduate and become a photographer, a musician, a radio/TV broadcast or studio design engineer, or a music recording studio recording or design engineer. In high school I already had the skills to make good money doing any of these.

My dad, who had a real engineering degree, advised that no matter what I wanted to do, that I invest a few years in a real 4-year engineering degree. This is because, regardless of what I eventually did, I'd get paid double simply because I had the degree.

I really wanted to start making the big money immediately and skip college, but I knew my dad was always right.

I got my real BSEE degree at a real four-year university.

Dad was absolutely right. I made far more than I had ever dreamed.

Even if you skipped college, I suggest doing whatever you have to to get your degree today. I think it was my uncle who decided to go off and earn money right out of high school, and then had to spend many more years of night school getting his real degree. It took a long time, but it was worth it.

In America today, unless you're running your own business and really good at it, a minimum of a four-year college degree is mandatory if you plan on working for anyone else and making decent money. Do whatever you have to to get it. Never give up!

Go to College and Go Yachting!

Luxury yacht captain Tedd Greenwald wrote me to share his hot tip for the new millennium.

He says the real deal now is get your 4 year degree then take a job on a big yacht as a mate. You will start at $60K/year (tax-free take-home) with room, board and uniforms included.

Get your captain's ticket in 2 years with some course work and sea time. Entry level captains now start at $90-120K/year, and the work is tons of fun, presuming you enjoy always being in the sun with lots of girls in bathing suits. Do this when you're young and in 10 years you should have been able to save $250K and blow the rest on motorcycles and stuff. It's the best deal going.

The captain who wrote me is on his 8th year. Pro photography is not a good way to go. Working pros can't afford the really cool gear like they can.

The captain also shares that the chairman of Trinity Yachts, Felix Sabates Jr., has said "The guy who buys our type of yacht isn't affected by the economy."

In 2008, 916 verified yachts over 80 feet are being built, up from 777 in 2007 and 688 in 2006. Are you seeing the trend here? The demand for crew is causing a "crewing crisis."

The captain is very happy with his 6-figure income. Look on Craigslist. You find up-and-coming high school kids with D300's advertising to shoot your wedding for $100, and they are pretty good! Screw pro photography. While you're young, get aboard the gravy train of big yachts. We don't have enough crew for the boats, plus fields that service boats like air conditioner repair, watermaker technicians, painters, welders, professional chefs are all in serious demand. Haul your butt to Fort Lauderdale or Monaco. The Caribbean is better when you come home with a ton of cash. Just don't buy your camera gear down there, get it from B&H.



Thus spake the captain.



More Information: Kinko's founder Paul Orfalea linked to this article from his personal blog article Rainy Day Role Models. I agree with him that even I don't agree with everything I've said above either! Reading Paul Orfalea's Blog I find it loaded with great stuff – much better than what I write. Check it out.



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Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Yes, Everyone Really Does Hate Performance Reviews

Yes, Everyone Really Does Hate Performance Reviews
by Samuel A. Culbert

It's time to finally put the performance review out of its misery.

This corporate sham is one of the most insidious, most damaging, and yet most ubiquitous of corporate activities. Everybody does it, and almost everyone who's evaluated hates it. It's a pretentious, bogus practice that produces absolutely nothing that any thinking executive should call a corporate plus.

And yet few people do anything to kill it. Well, it's time they did.

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Don't get me wrong: Reviewing performance is good; it should happen every day. But employees need evaluations they can believe, not the fraudulent ones they receive. They need evaluations that are dictated by need, not a date on the calendar. They need evaluations that make them strive to improve, not pretend they are perfect.

Who, Me?

Sadly, most managers are oblivious to the havoc they wreak with performance reviews. To some extent, they don't know any better: This is how performance reviews have been done, and this is how they will be done. Period.

Here's a simple experiment you can try. Ask yourself: How often have you heard a manager say, "Here is what I believe," followed by, "Now tell me, what do you think?" and actually mean it? Rarely, I bet.

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The performance review is the primary tool for reinforcing this sorry state. Performance reviews instill feelings of being dominated. They send employees the message that the boss's opinion of their performance is the key determinant of pay, assignment, and career progress. And while that opinion pretends to be objective, it is no such thing. Think about it: If performance reviews are so objective, why is it that so many people get totally different ratings simply by switching bosses?

No, instead, the overriding message is that the boss's assessment is really about whether the boss "likes" you, whether he or she feels "comfortable" with you. None of this is good for the company unless the boss is some kind of savant genius who can read an employee's talents with laser accuracy -- and then understands what motivates the employee so perfectly that he or she can push just the right psychological buttons to get the employee to use those talents.

Unlikely and even more unlikely.

The Damage Done

At this point, you may be asking: So what? So what if you can't speak your mind to your boss? So what if the performance review forces the boss to focus on an employee's "weaknesses" (since most bosses are told they can't give everyone top grades)? What harm does it really do?

Sadly, it does enormous damage. Forget, for a minute, the damage it does on a personal level -- the way it makes work lives miserable, the way it leaves employees feeling depressed and anxious, the way having to show so much tolerance at work leaves them with too little tolerance at home. Just think about what it does on a corporate level, the enormous amount of time and energy it wastes, and the way it prevents companies from tapping the innovative, outside-the-box thinking that so many employees are capable of. If only, that is, they weren't so afraid.

A Better Way

The good news is that none of this is the way things have to be. The one-sided, boss-dominated performance review needs to be replaced by a straight-talking relationship where the focus is on results, not personality, and where the boss is held accountable for the success of the subordinate (instead of just using the performance review to blame the subordinate for any problems they're having).

In this new system, managers will stop labeling people "good guys" and "bad guys" -- or, in the sick parlance of performance reviews, outstanding performers, average performers, and poor performers to be put on notice. Instead, they'll get it straight that their job is to make everyone reporting to them good guys.

If you're a boss, and your subordinate isn't succeeding, something is broken here. Doing more of the same isn't going to cut it. It's now time for you to ask, "What do you need from me to deliver what we are both on the firing line to produce?" And just as important, it's time for you to listen to the answer.

Asking and listening. Imagine that. It's called a conversation, and it's a rarity in workplaces today. Only by hearing what the other person thinks, and putting that person's actions in the appropriate context, can you actually see what the person is saying and doing -- and how together you can get where the company needs you to go.

Performance reviews won't get you there, because that's just about the boss getting the subordinate to buy into his or her way of thinking. It's a mirror -- not a window into the other person. But take away the performance review and you might actually have straight talk.

Rotten Milk

Proponents of performance reviews say that the problem isn't the review itself, but poorly trained reviewers. Sorry, but that doesn't fly: The performance review done exactly as intentioned is just as horribly flawed as the review done "poorly." You can't bake a great cake with rotten milk, no matter how skilled the chef. They also say you need performance reviews to protect against lawsuits by laid-off workers. Nonsense: Most performance reviews hurt a company's case because they aren't honest assessments of a worker's performance.

Also, before you start griping about how I don't understand Margaret, the woman in your department who wants to do as little work as possible, or how Tom is so distracted by his life outside the office that he can't get anything done at work, let me stop you and say: I know that not everybody deserves to stay in their jobs. Getting rid of performance reviews doesn't get rid of slackers. Not everybody will leap at the chance to get better and grow.

But everybody deserves the best shot managers can give them. And they can't get that shot with performance reviews.

Adapted from "Get Rid of the Performance Review! How Companies Can Stop Intimidating, Start Managing -- and Focus on What Really Matters." Copyright 2010. By Samuel A. Culbert with Lawrence Rout. Published by Business Plus, an imprint of Grand Central Publishing, a division of Hachette Book Group Inc. All rights reserved.

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Tuesday, April 13, 2010

6 proven ways to make habits stick

6 Proven Ways To Make New Habits Stick

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Not long ago, my daily life was in really bad shape. I was sleeping anywhere between 3am to 6am on average, and on the really bad days I wouldn’t sleep at all. Because I slept late, I would wake up late. Subsequently, my day would start off late, which meant I was busy “playing catch-up” and being late for my appointments. My diet was horrendous – I was eating lots of junk food and snacks at night to stay awake. It got worse month after month, and I didn’t want to continue on. I needed to revamp my lifestyle!
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I picked out 9 habits I wanted to cultivate for the next 21 days, such as: (1) Sleeping at/before 12am, (2) Waking up at 5am, (3) Reading a book or listening to a podcast at least once a day, (4) Meditating, (5) Being timely for my appointments (6) Even eating a raw food diet! #6 might be a bit of an overkill for some people, but hey – since it was just for 21 days, I thought I might as well try something different for a change.
I’m extremely happy to report that nearly all my habits have stuck. My life has become significantly organized. I wake up early, I get to all my appointments early/on time, I get my work done, I meditate, I’m eating raw, and I sleep on time. Out of the 9 habits, 8 habits stuck, while 1 habit was let go because I realized it wasn’t something I wanted to work on for now. Compared to my previous lifestyle, this has been a total 180 degree turnaround.
Some people might think this positive change is exclusive to me, that perhaps I have some incredible determination, persistence or discipline to pull this off. I don’t want to disappoint, but it’s not. In fact, truth be told, I consider myself a very undisciplined person. What I do have though, are 6 specific tips that have been critical in enabling my lifestyle change. These have helped my new habits stick.
If you have been trying to cultivate new habits with little success, then you might find these very useful. These habits are not rocket science – they are easy to understand, apply and have worked tremendously for me.
Here they are:

1. Know the Real Reason Why Your Habit Didn’t Stick Previously

Address the root cause of the issue, not the effect. Desperately battling with yourself every morning to wake up at 5:30am is to address the effect. Understanding why you keep failing to wake up at 5:30am is to address the cause.
For example, I couldn’t wake up early for the longest time ever, and all I kept doing is to keep trying and failing the next day. This would continue on for several months until I finally realized it was just going nowhere. I began to start analyzing my situation to understand why I couldn’t wake up early, through a self-questioning process. I probed into the situation, and asked myself “why” this was happening to drill down to the root cause.
Below is an example of the drilling process:
  • Why can’t I wake up early?
    • Because I’m tired.
  • Why am I tired?
    • Because I didn’t have enough sleep.
  • Why didn’t I have enough sleep?
    • Because I slept late.
  • Why did I sleep late?
    • Because I had too many things to do.
  • Why did I have so many things to do?
    • Because I can’t finish them.
  • Why can’t I finish them?
    • Because I schedule more tasks than I can accomplish for the day.
Getting down to this root cause helped me realize two things (1) All our habits are tied to one another (sleeping time, waking time, timeliness) (2) I underestimate the time taken to finish the tasks (and subsequently overestimate how fast I can do those tasks). Many times, I would target to finish multiple projects in 1 day, which wasn’t possible at all.
This meant that to make my waking early habit stick, (1) I need to change habits that are related to waking early (see Tip #2) and (2) I have to be more realistic in my planning. Rather than stuff in so many tasks for a day and not finishing them, now I go for a challenging yet achievable schedule and complete my tasks accordingly.
Keep asking why to drill down to the root reason. Once you get to the real cause, you can immediately resolve the issue.

2. Pick Habits that Reinforce Each Other

Our habits are not standalone; they are interlinked. Some habits have a stronger linkage with each other than others. For example, sleeping early and waking early are obviously linked to each other, while sleeping early and reading a book a day might not be so closely related. If you want to cultivate a habit, identify the other habits that are tied with it and make a holistic change. These habits will reinforce each other to help make the change seamless.
For example, my new habits to: (a) Wake up early at 5am (b) Sleep before 12am (c) Be on time (d) Meditate (e) Have raw food diet are all interlinked.
  • Waking up early means I more time to do my tasks, which helps me to sleep earlier in the night. This helps me to wake up early the next day.
  • Being on time helps me to get my tasks completed on time, which helps me adhere to the day’s schedule. This means my sleeping time and subsequently my waking time does not get affected.
  • Meditating clears out mental clutter and reduces the amount of sleep I need. Usually I sleep about pro6-10 hours, but on the nights I meditate, I require about 5-6 hours.
  • Switching to a raw vegan diet has helped to increase my mental clarity, which meant I don’t need to sleep as much as before. I’m not saying that you need to go raw vegan just to cultivate a habit of sleeping/waking early, just that I noticed this particular benefit when I switched to this diet. You can sleep and wake up early perfectly fine by changing other habits.

3. Plan For Your Habits (Right down to the timings)

Having a schedule lets you know when you are on or off track for your habits. For the 1st day of my new lifestyle, I did a full-day planning and continued thereafter for all other days.
What I do is this:
  1. On the night before, put together a list all the tasks I need to get done for the next day. This includes what’s on my calendar (I use Gcal).
  2. Batch them into (a) Major projects, (b) Medium sized tasks and (c) Small, administrative activities
  3. Slot them into my schedule for the day. Major projects would have most amount of time assigned. The principle I usually go by is 60-30-10 (% time spent) for a-b-c groups respectively.
  4. Be aware of how much time each task requires. If it helps, most of the time we underestimate the time we need. Make it a realistic yet challenging time to work towards. Usually I assign a 5-10 minutes buffer time in between tasks to account for the transition from 1 task to the next.
  5. Assign exact timings for when each task starts and ends. For example, 9am to 10:30am for Project A, 12:30-1:30pm for lunch, 6:30-7:30pm for commute.
  6. If there are more tasks to be done than my schedule allows, I’ll deprioritize the unimportant ones and put them off to another day.
With all this planning done, when the next day comes all I have to do is to follow the schedule to a tee. I keep a close watch on the timing to ensure I’m on time. 5 minutes before it’s up, I do a wrap up and start transiting to the next task on the list.
The beauty of having a precise schedule is it helps me know exactly when I’m taking more time than desired, and this helps me work on being more efficient. There are some timings which absolutely have to be protected, such as my sleeping/waking times and appointment times, so in that sense the time allocated on my tasks are fixed. That means I have to work more efficiently.
It may seem like a hassle, but it really isn’t. It just takes me about 10 minutes to get each day’s schedule done. Not surprisingly, I have allocate time in my daily schedule to do my scheduling for the next day (11-11:10pm). All you have to do is create a template once, and then you can reapply this template for the other days. There will be similar items across all out days that can be reapplied, such as waking/breakfast/commuting/working/dinner/sleeping times, so it’s really very straight forward.
If you don’t plan for when exactly to get the habit done and instead just arbitrarily say that you want it to be done sometime today, then there’s a very high chance it might not get done. This is why most people’s habits don’t stick. Other things will invariably keep popping in and you’d engage them without realizing it and throw your schedule off track. From there, other things get pushed back and you never get to carry out your habit.

4. Stay Ahead of Your Schedule

I found it’s extremely motivating to stay ahead. Waking up early at 5am means I’m ahead of most people in the world (and myself too, if I were to stick to my old schedule), and that motivates me to work fast and stay ahead. What helps me continue this momentum is that I end my tasks earlier and start the next task before the scheduled timing. By ensuring I stay ahead of my schedule, I’m naturally motivated to work on all the things I have planned, including my habits. There’s no resistance to get them started at all.
If a task is taking more time than needed, then I make a choice. Either I:
  1. Hurry up and get it done
  2. Deprioritize the unnecessary or
  3. Borrow time out for my later tasks to continue working on the current one. This also means I have to work faster for the remainder of the day.
This decision-making process is important, because otherwise you will end up playing catch-up for the rest of the day, which affects all your planned habits/activities. Subsequently, it also affects your will to maintain your habits. Stay ahead of your schedule and you will find it easier to stay motivated.

5. Track Your Habits

Tracking keeps you accountable to your habits. I have a whiteboard in my bedroom which I use to track my habits. On the whiteboard, I drew a large table, split by days (21 days to cultivate a new habit) and by habits. For the days where I do the habit, I will give it a check. For the days I don’t, I make a cross. It’s very satisfying to do the checks every time you finish a habit! You can also track your habits on paper or in your computer.
Here are some great habit trackers online:
  • HabitForge – Tracks new habits through a 21-day period. If you miss the habit for 1 day, it’ll restart.
  • Rootein – Unlike Habit Forge, this is an ongoing habit tracker. There is also a mobile version for you to track your habits on the go.
  • Joe’s Goals – Same as Rootein. There’s an option to place multiple checks on the same goal for extra-productive days.

6. Engage People Around You

Engagement can occur on 2 levels – (a) Active engagement, where you inform your friends who might be interested in and cultivate the habit together with them or (b) Passive engagement, where you let others know about your plans and having them morally support you.
I had both forms of support in my habit change. 2 days before I started my lifestyle revamp program, I posted an article on my blog, The Personal Excellence Blog, on the new 21-day Lifestyle Revamp Program I was taking on. I wrote in detail about the rationale behind the program, the benefits, the habits I was taking on and how I was going to achieve my goals. I also invited them to join me too in cultivating new habits. Much to my pleasant surprise, many readers responded in enthusiasm on new habits they wanted to cultivate and joined me in the 21-days of change.
For my raw food diet, I told my mom that I’m just eating fruits and salads for the next 3 weeks, and she began to stock up the house with fruits like bananas, grapes and strawberries. In fact, I just finished a box of strawberries from typing this post. Yesterday, I went to watch How To Train A Dragon with my friend, and filled him in on my raw food diet. He then kept a look out for the restaurants we could dine in for that night. In the end I had warm baby spinach salad for dinner. My first time having it – can’t say I like it, but it’s nice for a change :D.
Don’t feel that you’re alone in your habit change because you aren’t. There are always people around you who are more than willing to support you.

Final Words

My new habits have pretty much been integrated into my daily life now. Everything runs on auto-pilot and it feels like I’ve been doing this for a long while. My personal tips above have worked tremendously for myself, so while they may look simple and straightforward, don’t underestimate them. Try them out for yourself and let me know how your new habits are coming along for you.
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