Stop your musterbating

Motivation
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You may inadvertently undermining your best attempts at progressing forward by flagellating yourself with so many” oughts, and shoulds, and "musts" that you end up drained of a desire to get moving at all.
Dr. Albert Ellis a renowned psychotherapist describes this mental trap as "musterbation.”

Reformulate the way you tell yourself to do things eliminating those coercive words from your vocabulary. An alternative to pushing yourself to get up in the morning would be to say, "It will make me feel better to get out of bed, even though it will be hard at first. Although I'm not obliged to, I might end up being glad I did, if on the other hand, I'm really benefiting from the rest and relaxation, I may as well go ahead and enjoy it!"

If you translate shoulds into wants, you will be treating yourself with a sense of respect. This will produce a feeling of freedom of choice and personal dignity. You will find that a reward system works better and lasts longer than a whip. Ask yourself, "What do I want to do?” What course of Action would be to my best advantage?" I think you will find that this way of looking at things will enhance your motivation.

If you still have the desire to lie in bed, mope, and doubtful that getting up is really what you want to do, then stay there until you feel better, but under no circumstances do you berate or belittle yourself. In a very short time you will find yourself doing more with less effort to get started.
Remember that practice make perfect.

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